Dealing with feedback.
I sit here waiting to be judged. That’s the point of a blog, isn’t it? I throw something into the world that resonates with how I feel and what I think and then I let it go. Like a piece of paper tied to a balloon it floats away for all to see. Then from time to time I get a like. A virtual pat on the back saying “You did well”. And from less time to time I get a comment. Those can be terrifying. I like being judged, in a way. I think I can improve from it. But the most horrific thing of all is when I get reviewed on amazon.
It happens very rarely. But it is still unavoidable. I’ll wake up, go to my author page and notice a review. Reviews are defining: a good one will mean more people buy my story while a bad one… well… Let’s not think about that.
There are many kinds of reviews, some are useful while others are pointless. Anyone who is into doing something artistic or creative knows the worst kind of feedback they can get is:
Please, allow me to shout it out to everyone now. We are nothing with this kind of feedback. Obviously we want to know if you think it is good or bad but more importantly we want to know why. I’m now speaking for myself: but writing is a lonely job. You do it on your own and safe from getting feedback from people you ask feedback from, there are very little ways to know that what you are doing works. One of the reasons I blog is to create an audience I can ask for feedback. I’m open to all kinds of commentary on my writing style and I mostly find the negative ones more interesting.
How do I deal with feedback? I usually take all the feedback I get serious but I will avoid responding to feedback. Going into discussion with someone who just gave your story a one-star review is a stupid idea. It won’t make you look good. I tend to read feedback and look if I agree or disagree with it. I always try to learn something from it. Which isn’t always easy. Now go ahead and judge me. I’m just glad this place doesn’t have dislikes.